Almost daily we hear of or read reports of men who are facing years of imprisonment for choosing to have sex with children and underage teens. Although a few of these men may be derelicts most of them are married and have families of their own. They come from all walks of life: clergymen of all denominations, doctors, lawyers, teachers, college professors, CEO’s, business executives, law enforcement officers, judges, poliiticians, truck drivers, production workers, etc.
The question I am most frquently asked is, “Why do these very intelligent men who have so much to lose get themselves involved in such sexually dangerous and perverse activity?” There are no simple or definitve answers to this question. However, here some observations that may help to clarify some of the issues involved: 1. Intelligence has nothing to do with these behaviors. They are emotionaly compulsive decisions growing out of obssessions about sexuial experiences they believe will provide them more intense and longer lasting sexual orgasms. 2. These men have little or no capacity for spiritual or emotional intimacy and have isolated their sexual pleasures from any permanent relationships with the persons that chose to use for their sexual pleasure. 3. They are addicted to sexual feelings and will risk anything to get their “sexual fix.” 4. Usually their addiction has its roots in a longstanding history of their use of pornography. 5. Addictions to pornography are more difficult to break than addictions to cocaine. Wny? Pornography combines the appeals of all three drug families. It excites you like the stimulants (cocaine, crack, etc.). It feeds your fantasies like the hallucinigens (marajuana, peyote, :LSD). It relaxes you like the opioids (heroin, opium, etc.).
God designed sexual orgasm to form a pleasure bond between a husband and wife that would build a growing attachment between them for life. The strength and fidelity of this bond makes a vital contribution to the foundation of a strong and healthy family. When the pleasure of sexual orgasm becomes more important than fidelity in marriage, what God intended to feed a lovebond between a husband and wife becomes a cruel bondage destroying one’s ability to be successfully married to anyone. What God intended to build a loving bond, the devil has used to create a cruel bondage.
Future generations are going to fall into the same shame and humiliation unless they are taught the truth about sex. Do parents really care enough about protecing their children from becoming another shameful statistic in the next generation to get involved in the sex education of their children? Do chuurches really care enough about training parents to be the primary sex educators of the children to assume the role preparing parents for this awesome task? Infromation about my program: Parents First:Enabling Parents to be The Primary Sex Educators of their Children can be obtained from my website: www.drdobbins.com or by callng 330-715-5127.
